After a full on 12 months, things were getting tremendous in our world. An executive decision was made about 10days ago to get away.
I was already going to be on Annual leave in Auckland for the inaugural ‘Woman in Leadership Symposium’ (deserving of a whole nother blog).
My personal Auckland driver (Talia – daughter) delivered me to the airport, where Phil-husband from Dunedin, met me.
The destination we’d decided to head to had a few requirements.
It needed to be Air NZ friendly so we could use our overflowing air points. Needed to be within a 4 hour time zone change (have no time for that adjustment shit) and I wanted all the bells and whistles, because quite frankly I’m getting high maintenance in my middle aged years, and dam it, I deserve it!
Port Douglas it was!
The quick trip across the Tasman isn’t as quick as you would ASSUME (You know one of my favorite sayings is’don’t assume, CONFIRM!). It took 15 hours from Auckland, who knew? Not me, hadn’t even had time to look when I booked.
I was grateful to be heading away, in a time when I need ‘time out from life’.
Business class Air NZ, yes!
Champagne on arrival while the herds of people are shuffled to the cheap seats (not really so cheap but less expensive then the one I was sitting in). Recliner chair even Phil (6foot6) can lie in, movies galore as the food keeps coming with the champagne topped up. Heavenly start to what I hope will be a trip of renewing goals, unclenching my jaw (stress) and some executive decisions made.
Sydney for way to long….
Next flight Virgin Australia, to my disappointment and Phils too (who claims business class is a waste of money), we were put in the 1st 2 rows, the equivalent to business class. No champagne, just water. We were offered beer or rum later…. Beer! The rum was Bundy- Aussie love the stuff iiick!
Food was delicious, but the flight was freezing, had a loud English chap that thought the sound of his own voice was what we all wanted to hear, 2 screaming kids, and a very attentive flight attendent. Kids should not be allowed in business class-just saying.
We arrived! Hello Cairns. To a balmy damp twilight feel. Bags got, 4×4 hired and off we set to Port Douglas. Only one wrong turn, twice haha. A 7am start NZT arriving at our Resort at 10.12pm NZT.
So we’re here, a good sleep and now 4.15am local time,blogging because I’m awake and not used to doing anything….. I hope by the end I’ll be relaxed and able to enjoy doing nothing…. the beginning of a holiday. I’m looking forward to exploring and hanging out with Phil. It’s been to long.
Last year when I left a #ConferenzNZ ‘Marketing to Farmers’ conference after being part of a panel, I had no idea what was in front of me …… apart from cows and about 200 hungry calves and a night at the Southern South Island #TOPSHOP awards in Dunedin.
It was the 2nd year I had entered my business in the Retail NZ competition and Jess into the Retail professional award, after successfully gaining recognition the previous year.
I flew Auckland to Dunedin via Wellington. It was that flight between Wellington and Dunedin that gave me this amazing opportunity I have just had, presenting ‘My Story’ to my retail peers and Retail Royalty from NZ and around the world!
I’m still pinching myself!
That flight, I had sat at the very back of the plane so I could be 1st off, as I was in a hurry to catch up with my Carvin girls who were road tripping up from Gore to Dunedin for #TOPSHOP awards that evening.
Was it chance or was it meant to be that a gentleman by the name of Mark Johnston sat next to me? We chatted, general chitchat, he asked about the conference I had just attended, I asked what he did? He said he was CEO for Retail NZ. I Proceeded to tell him I was off to the awards as a finalist. He already knew that (he had recognised my face) but hadn’t let on! And still didn’t! He had booked his seat for a fast getaway to the awards too. We chatted the whole trip, great banter, with him knowing I was actually sitting at his table, and the awards Carvin had won! I still had no clue, he definitely had a good poker face!
Fast forward to the awards, he spotted me and did suggest I don’t drink too much! I thought he was being cheeky! In hindsight he was forewarning me I was about to get up and do several acceptance speeches!
What a wonderful evening and I was fortunate enough to meet many great new people!
Next,Christchurch and the National awards……. Carvin Streetwear Runner up to the Supreme Award of TOPSHOP 2015! Mark suggested that night he/they at Retail NZ maybe in touch, they were planning the inaugural Retail NZ conference.
4 months later….
Mark Johnston – Retail NZ CEO
Yesterday (16/02/16 ) I presented at the inaugural Retail NZ Conference #shopkiwi , but not before I had- had an interesting evening with some of retails Royalty from around NZ, Australia and America. Dining at one of Auckland finest restaurants “ The Sugar Club” …………. high in the sky!
Mikayla Whetton, Events & Promotions Manager Retail NZ and I
I was a breakout speaker yesterday 1 of 6. Sharing my retail success as a SME (small medium enterprise)
the day before- all the great Retail NZ staff setting up. 300 hundred attendees ( goodie bags needed packed)
the room was wide 2 screens requirred. they were right up in my face!
Standing room only along the back wall
me at my practice before 9am start
They opened two rooms to fit the people that had indicated they wanted to listen to me
I’m feeling very nervous here!
The Epsom room had seating for 80! By the time my head had stopped spinning on my shoulders through sheer fear and nerves (completely out of my comfort zone), I realised all seats were full (except a couple up the front- noone likes the front haha) and standing room only, people were filed along the back of the room also!
Were they really there to listen to me?
(2 people even told me they had attended the event because they wanted to listen and meet me! I actually had people waiting to meet me after and another one even wanted a photo! OMG!)
And what more, they were engaged in my presentation!
At the end of my presentation, the questions came thick and fast, it was amazing, so much so, we went overtime of my 40min time slot. Below are photos of the programme line up and a little about what we were all speaking about.
Matthew Shay – National Retail Federation, President and CEO
What a truly great experience, worth all the worry, anxiety and nerves. I choose the blue pill, to get uncomfortable (see *)
I wanted to blog this, not just because it’s been a truly amazing few days and I wanted to share my experience with you all, but because I hope that it may inspire just one of you who are taking the time to read my blog ☺
One of the main speakers (Paul Taylor) talked of health , wellbeing and your mind. Apart from actually almost getting me to shit my pants, get emotional about running a marathon and teaching me that 8 min exercise in the morning is great for you, he talked of Morpheus (from Matrix – the movie) and spoke about how choices are what define us. We make our own luck! Many people tell me I’m lucky .
Paul talked about getting uncomfortable until we are comfortable and then pushing forward again to be uncomfortable, all the time improving, this relates to anything in life, whether it be exercise, relationships, work , life in general.
*Morpheus said in his movie, there’s 2 pills…. a red one which you can take and life will be the same- easy, what you are used too, or the blue one that will change everything forever! It might be great or it might not. It’s your choice !
I choose to take the blue one every time, I really enjoyed his analogy,it was putting how I see life into context. (Sometimes it’s not so good, but then I get uncomfortable again).
So if you are wondering or umming and aahing, about life and things you want to have, achieve or do, just think are you happy with status quo? What is it you actually want for you, your family,your life and your well being? It’s not going to come to you as you are at status quo, you actually have to get out there and feel uncomfortable to get it.
Which pill do you choose to take?
The red or the blue?
Are you too comfortable?
It’s your choice,it’s your destiny.
If you think you’re unlucky all the time, maybe it’s time you looked at why? Maybe you need to choose the Blue Pill too!
Our MC for the day Hilary Barry-Journalist
The inaugural Retail NZ Conference #shopkiwi was a huge success! The exhibitors were amazing and all very relevant, we got spoilt with TIPTOP icecreams and as many coffees from Z coffee cart as we wanted, not to mention all the great competitions, networking, yum Food at the breaks and learning about what’s available out there to us retailers! A must to attend!
A few snap shots of the programme, click on them to read close.
Tonight I gave my 2nd speech to my Gore toastmasters group. Even though I have only been attending since April I can’t believe the improvements I have made. All from learning little bits from all the other members. Tonight apart from trying to control the butterflies, my goals were to not clench my fists and not to say umm! I did say 1 um, and instead of clenching my fists I kind of played with my fingertips (hard to describe) but an improvement I think haha. ( please excuse my grammar,spelling and all that’s not right. I could read and understand it, the main thing 😉 .
Below is my Speech I wrote on Saturday inbetween calves and cows, also a photo of my report from my Evaluator, I’m super stoked! And so pleased I went outside my comfy zone! can I inspire you too?
Get out of your comfort zone!
If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your horizons.
Be willing to step outside of it once in a while; Take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you’d just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting.
As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.
I’ve learnt in my life that it’s important to be able to step outside my comfy zone. Because of my fear of public speaking,I had let friends down when I couldn’t bring myself to speak at a tangi of my dear school friend and another occasion a best friends 40th. I had never liked the sound of my own voice, let alone the thought of standing up and having a zillion eyes looking and listening to me! A few years ago, I was asked to join a local radio show .I thought it was an ideal opportunity for my business. I was sick of letting opportunities go and making excuses because of my fear of public speaking.
The show, 3 years on has become my new normal, though the first few months, everytime I went to go on air, I felt like fainting, sweaty palms and that terrible butterfly feeling. I now am a regular on a couple of different radio shows. It is my new normal, but only because I pushed myself to continue. It’s the hardest thing pushing through anxiety and worry, to get to the new ‘Normal’.
From there came other opportunities, which I hesitantly accepted. First judging then later comparing a wedding show…. It was during this time I got speaking to a friend about my inadequacies, she suggested coming along to toastmasters…. I put it off………. it was right out side my comfort zone!
We all like being comfortable. But there is a time when pushing ourselves is going to be beneficial. Its times like that we need to recognise.
If we trust ourselves we start to sense when the time is right.
For me the time came with a phone call from Conference NZ, asking if I would participate as a speaker on a panel for an upcoming Marketing conference ,being held in Auckland. It would have been comfortable and easy to say thank you but no thank you. But the time felt right and I instead said thank you and YES!
Next I messaged my friend Chrissy and asked, what time and day is this toastmasters meeting? Tell me more!……It’s time!
The rest is history!
Although I had only been attending a few months before my speaking engagement, I had learnt so many little things from the great group of Gore toastmasters that, when it was my turn to get on stage in front of 200 attendees, (with a mic attached to my ear-yes another first) , I was able to control my nerves, I remembered to breath and while a little shaky to start, once I was up there for a few minutes, relaxed and was able to discuss all the points I needed and answer the audience questions. The questions kept coming to the point that the 50 mins went 15mins over, but to the delight of myself and the conference convenor , it was because the audience wanted it. I have since been asked to speak again next year! Will this be my new normal?
A comfort zone is a problem when we’re stuck in it, when we don’t let ourselves move with the natural flow of life. When we hold ourselves back and hide where we are comfortable and with what we know.
ARE we effectively saying no to life?
For me, public speaking was becoming a hindrance, I was passing up opportunities because I may have needed to stand up in front of a large group and speak!
Stepping out of my comfort zone, enabled me to recently receive several accolades on stage, with no speech prepared. 3 times I was required to get up and except awards. Going out of my comy zone and coming along to toastmasters enabled me to be able to breath, stop, think and process what I was going to say that was relevant. Yes my head was spinning on my shoulders, well so I felt, yes my voice was shaky from emotion, as much as anything, but I was able to get up on stage!!!Remember just the thought of that was waaaay out of my comfort zone, not that long ago!
My next challenge has been set, in a few weeks I am helping MC a local fundraiser, again out of my comfy zone, but the more I do this the more this will become my normal.
I challenge you! Do what scares you. When you think of ideas and it scares you. It is a good sign! Usually a scared feeling is accompanied with the feeling of exhilaration.
The more we can make it a habit of pushing ourselves, the easier it will become.
Be that person you truly want to be, challenge yourself, and weather it learning something new, changing lifestyle or job or doing something that really intrigues you! It will be scary and you will second thought yourself, but do it!
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone! Are you missing opportunities? Are you doing what you dream of?
An article I featured in from The Otago Daily News Saturday Editon, has people talking, it’s like noone realised I did what I do. Or is it because it’s in the news, it’s real? Either way, I was chuffed and hope all my parents love getting their copy in the mail in the next few days.
The reporter was amazing, she must have recorded every word, as she quoted me throughly over the phone on Tuesday.
The photo I emailed through to her wasn’t quite what she wanted to go with the story she told me when she called on Wednesday, she was sending a photographer from Dunedin to capture me, with painted fingernails and fur as I’d described to her when she’d called to interview me. I was about to get changed (after work in my store)into my farm clothes,just as she phoned.
The photographer arrived at 8.30 on the dot, Thursday morning happy to see my nails done, allowed me to wear my gumboots but wondered if I had a better jacket to wear.. I proceeded to try on 3 others until he thought the perfect one. Off we went to the calf sheds.. No hungry calves, rather subdued, sleepy and not interested in us. (feed an hour earlier so I was ready for work).
I had to sit quietly in my stockings, dress, fur and gumboots. While Stephen the photographer lay on the ground finding the perfect light and different angles of me and the calves.
Ultimately capturing some amazing pictures, I love! What a great experience, a journalist who made me sound great and a photographer who managed to make me look glamorous in gumboots.